“I’ve got a deep problem with people dressing up their aesthetic gripe with fat with scientific concerns, then feeling legitimised in their shitty meanness. And I likewise hate programmes like The Biggest Loser that imply losing weight is some kind of moral transformation – you come out a new, more worthwhile person who’s repented and now has some self-respect. Frickin spare me.”—Comment on “Don’t Panic Everyone, I already know” by The Lady Garden (via intothewilde-michelle)
A good character does not necessarily equate to a good person and that’s a-okay. There are plenty of fictional jerks, villains and antagonists that get loads of attention precisely because of their flaws. These flaws may not make them a great person or model citizen but they certainly make them an interesting character.
“Women are socialized to make men feel good. We’re socialized to “let you down easy.” We’re not socialized to say a clear and direct “no.” We’re socialized to speak in hints and boost egos and let people save face. People who don’t respect the social contract (rapists, predators, assholes, pickup artists) are good at taking advantage of this. “No” is something we have to learn. “No” is something we have to earn. In fact, I’d argue that the ability to just say “no” to something, without further comment, apology, explanation, guilt, or thinking about it is one of the great rites of passage in growing up, and when you start saying it and saying it regularly the world often pushes back. And calls you names.”—The art of “no.” « CaptainAwkward.com (via delascielo)